Adolescence is certainly a crazy time for both parents and teenagers.. As parents, we can’t demand that our teenagers be grateful of us. However, an ungrateful attitude and a sense of entitlement are unacceptable as well.
Take for example the popular situation in which a teenage girl goes into her bedroom after her mother tells her that she's not allowed to go out with her friends. "I'm going to run away you'll never see me again ! I swear! " she shouts, as she slams herself repeatedly in her bed,and tears off her clothes. Personally, my mom would have killed me if I ever acted like that. But according to scientific studies her lack of gratitude is normal. Although a lack in gratitude may be unavoidable among teens today, some rejected the arguments that it's just a limitation of adolescence. The environment and the commercial culture plays a big role in teenager's behavior.
But what makes teenagers grateful? If you're not grateful then you'll pass your life either depressed or just sad not knowing what you really want. Giacomo Bono has found in his research that many young people are less grateful because they don’t yet know what their purpose is. In other words, my contemporaries,or people who are same age as me, probably aren’t ungrateful people – they’re just still figuring out what to be grateful for.In other words they don't really care about being grateful or not all what they care about is to acquire a thousand friends on Facebook. Some parents help their teens show more gratitude by:
Gratitude, is an ideal concept that psychologist have found. It doesn't only depend on how another person done right by you, but also how you might return the favor. And that's not something we need experts to tell us. In some cases gratitude might be beyond the capabilities of the teenager's brain.
Take for example the popular situation in which a teenage girl goes into her bedroom after her mother tells her that she's not allowed to go out with her friends. "I'm going to run away you'll never see me again ! I swear! " she shouts, as she slams herself repeatedly in her bed,and tears off her clothes. Personally, my mom would have killed me if I ever acted like that. But according to scientific studies her lack of gratitude is normal. Although a lack in gratitude may be unavoidable among teens today, some rejected the arguments that it's just a limitation of adolescence. The environment and the commercial culture plays a big role in teenager's behavior.
But what makes teenagers grateful? If you're not grateful then you'll pass your life either depressed or just sad not knowing what you really want. Giacomo Bono has found in his research that many young people are less grateful because they don’t yet know what their purpose is. In other words, my contemporaries,or people who are same age as me, probably aren’t ungrateful people – they’re just still figuring out what to be grateful for.In other words they don't really care about being grateful or not all what they care about is to acquire a thousand friends on Facebook. Some parents help their teens show more gratitude by:
1) Being a gratitude modle, That means show it, recognize it, and appreciate it when you see it. When your teen demonstrates kind, and thoughtful behavior, be sure to show gratitude. Nothing feels better than being appreciated for the little things such as putting the plates in the sink without being asked or making the bed. Oppose the temptation to say; “FINALLY, you did it– why don’t you do this all the time!”
2) Find the Good in the situation. Many situations which appear “bad,” often can result in something good. It may be tough, but try to be a “good-finder” and show your children how to do the same.
3) Help their teens in having privileges. It can’t be “all work and no play.” Allow them to hang out with friends, go to the movies, or simply have time by themselves . This will allow them to be more grateful for their downtime and let them know that you, as a parent, trust them, and appreciate their efforts.
Gratitude is something obtained by what surrounds the person. So surrounding your teen with gratitude, grateful people, or things to be grateful for, and models of gratitude and soon they'll get the picture.
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